Time to share another lounge set! Sunday lounging in another lounge set sounds fabulous to me. This particular lounge set is a true cotton sweatshirt feel. No fleece lining. Lighter weight than the Amazon set I shared last weekend.
I love the marbling! The berry hue with black marbling is really cute and again great worn together or separately with other pieces.
fit
Both the pullover and joggers fit tts. They are a more relaxed fit. Since the fabric is a traditional cotton blend with some stretch There is no fleece lining inside. A medium weight set. I am wearing a size small in both the top and bottom. While it does fit tts. I will say if you don’t want the pants to loosen up in the hinney and knees size down. It will feel snug at first but the material does naturally stretch with wear. If you’re looking for that relaxed feel then stick with your typical size.
other ways to style
1.Wear the bottoms with a tank and chunky knit cardigan with slim sneakers for day wear. I like the idea of a cream cardigan button up and draped half way off the shoulder.
2. Style the lounge set separately by wearing the pullover with a pair of black joggers and slides. Another lounge set without it being matchy-matchy.
3. Slip on the marbled joggers with a black tank and a denim jacket. Pair with short uggs or slim sneakers. Or wear a denim button down wrapped around your waist with a fitted long sleeve shirt. I always like adding a pair of hoops-small, medium, or large for a little something extra.
4. Style the pullover with a pair of cognac utility pants and mules or loafers for a casual work place look. Something that would be appropriate for a teacher on a Friday or someone who works in a casual environment.
life update
This year has been full of so many changes. We had started to build community with the school I worked for and the classmates Kashmir and Kyrie went to school with. There was a rhythm in San Luis Obispo, CA. But, in March Nick was offered a job in Georgia. We decided it was the best thing for his career. And with that we moved in May to Georgia.
All throughout this new journey and over a year prior I had spent a lot of time working on myself. Figuring out who I really am. What I really want out of my life. How to not depend on others for my happiness. How to be confident in me and speak my truth. Let go of any codependence I had with Nick and my family.
The tough truth of it is; for a long time I knew what I should do to grow and develop but, I didn’t actually want to take the steps to do it. Like when we want to lose weight but aren’t willing to do what we know actually works. Eat less junk, workout regularly, skip alcohol. etc. We know what we need to do but, we don’t want to take the hard steps to get there. Or if we’re in an unhealthy relationship we know what we should do. But, to actually step away and start fresh is scary. It’s hard and we don’t want to do what’s hard. It’s actually easier to stay in the unhealthy relationship or just ignore the lifestyle choices we’re making. The hard thing is to make the changes necessary for our happiness. Something I think many of us sit in and aren’t willing to make the sacrifices for a better life on the other side.
I knew if I didn’t want to depend on Nick for my personal happiness I had to actually do things for myself that would change this habit. But, when it came to it I would just keep up with the same old patterns. I feel sad and I take it out on Nick. It’s a cry for love and affection. But, what does it actually give me? A frustrated less than happy spouse who really doesn’t want to love and show affection toward me. I was unknowingly begging for attention in a way that was actually giving an outcome of the exact opposite of what I wanted.
Once I figured this out about myself. It took me well over a year to actually change my habits. When I had the chance to be needy, whiny, or sad I either acted on it or I thoughtfully decided to act differently. It is so hard to stop yourself from instinct and choose a different path.
My instinct is to say “what about me!” “But, hey this is affecting me this way.” “Me. Me. Me.” Through therapy I learned so much about how what others do actually has nothing to do with me. Everyone’s actions have to do with themselves. If they’re mean to you it’s about them. If they’re nice to you it’s about them. If they’re unhappy you will be treated accordingly. If they’re happy you will be treated accordingly.
I spent a lot if time dwelling in unhappiness and probably some sort of depression. One that I could live through and keep to myself only letting Nick see my darkness and unknowingly asking him to fix me. What a burden. A burden that is not his to bear. He is meant to support me. Lift me up. But, not carry my load and fix the burdens of my load.
That was for me to figure out. I now have to take moments to leave the room and meditate. I take the time to breath for 5 minutes alone in my room when I am feeling overwhelmed. I am a person who feels things deeply. I actually love that about me. Instead of saying, I am such a sensitive person or I am overly sensitive. I have taken the negative connotation away and am glad to know I feel things deeply.
I feel deeply and I have learned the tools I need to process them. The tools to feel and move on. I have the tools to process and heal without expecting to be fixed by others.
We are meant to feel things. We are meant to go deep. Be vulnerable and grow together. Life is hard and if we don’t seek growth continually it will swallow us up! I was being swallowed up by the hardships of life and wanting easy fixes. Quick fixes. An order online, a happy show, a date night. I wanted moments, things and others to fulfill me. Nothing ever kept me at bay.
The only way to feel fulfilled is to love yourself. Love who you are. Know who you are and stand up for who you are. It takes daily choices. A constant decision to invest in you. Sometimes I think gosh why is this so hard! I’m exhausted. But, then I think about the alternative. I wasn’t happy. I lived for happy moments.
My mental state swings drastically from day to day. Moment to moment. I am a person who can let things dwell and get to me. But, through daily mindset work I have strengthened the muscle for positivity, self awareness, self love. It literally takes me listening to a mindset podcast every single morning while working out. I have to start my day this way. When I don’t I notice the negativity creep in. I don’t want it. I refuse to keep those thoughts.
This past week Kyrie and I got sick. I skipped working out which meant I skipped four days of my mindset podcast. Guess what happened? By day four I was struggling with my thoughts. It’s that easy to slip back into old ways. It takes constant work and dedication.
We all have our own stuff. Maybe this sounds so foreign to you. But, my hope is that Macca Rose is a space where you feel connection, vulnerability, and relatability. Fashion is my business. But, it’s so easy to think the person sharing pretty clothes, makeup, relationship advice, recipes, etc doesn’t have hardships in life because we only see the pretty things.
I want to share more than the pretty things. So, each Sunday I will be sharing the deeper stuff. This will be our lounge + life little corner of the world. I hope you find it comforting.
Till next time,
Macca Rose
